I Have an Asshole in My Family

It's a big ASSHOLE!!! I can't give names, but, it married my Mom a few years after my Dad past-away. Dad died eight years ago. Mom loved him, and had spent most her life with Dad. My Dad was cast down by lung cancer. In January, they found a dime-size spot on his shoulder. By June 13th he was dead. It happens rapidly and to anyone. Dad didn't drink or smoke. He had been an athelete and soldier his whole life. So, see a doctor on a regular basis.

Mom remained depressed for a couple of years, and didn't seem to have a full life anymore. Then came along the ASSHOLE. At first, he seemed like the answer to my Mom's woes. He talked to her constantly on the phone. Cheered her up and took her places. She had a life again. She seemed so very happy. He seemed like the ideal canidate to watch over your Mom in lew of your Father.

So, what went wrong??

ASSHOLE met my Mom While a teenager in High School. In the days before my Dad. When Dad came along, Mom couldn't remember who ASSHOLE was. Anyway, They broke up back in high School, and Mom went on to marry the BETTER MAN.

ASSHOLE went on into the Army, similiar to my Dad. He spent 20 yrs. in the military and my Dad spent over thirty. Asshole married for fifty years to what by all accounts, was very nice woman and person to know. So God bless her, she must of really had her hands full with ASSHOLE.

ASSHOLE had several children, who all turned out to be exceptional people - all credit to their Mom, I'm sure. His wife eventually past-away due to Alsheimers. Three or four years later, my Dad dies.

Everyone loved the guy when we met him and strongly encouraged Mom to be open to him and not afraid. She had spent most her life with Dad, so I'm sure everything seemed awkward at first. She went and stayed with him for awhile out West. they traveled and had a generally good time. All seemed well. Eventually they tied-the-knot.

All was fine until about two months after the wedding. ASSHOLE began to act anti-social to every single person other than his own kids and grandchildren. He began dramatically transform into this person who - painfully obvious to all - was trying to drive everyone away. He wouldmn't allow any of my Mom's friends or family visit or even make a short call to our Mom. All grandchildren were cut off as well. YES, HE ACTUALLY DID THIS TO CHILDREN.

Suddenly, my Mom wasn't even allowed to drive to the store anymore. Where ever he was, she was being forced to be at his side. He is an EXTREME CONTROL FREAK. He forbids her to ever mention my Dad to any of the grandchildren who remember him.

It was a very rapid, surreal, extreme transformation. No warning. He didn't act jealous and possessive before they married. He tricked her. He never said that all ties to any life; including grandchildren, would have to be permentantly servered. It is BIZARRE! It slips belief that someone could have this destructive audacity.

Due to his age, we now believe that he actually isn't in control of all his mental faculties. He often acts very child-like, and pouty like a little kid. Seriously. His extreme possesiveness of my Mom is as if his afraid to be alone. He was the youngest of I believe seven or eight kids. Either he didn't get enough attention in his formative years or, he got way, way to much.

My Mom has been married to ASSHOLE about three years. She said she was going to divorce him before it's over. As of this writing he has gotten bad again. This time worse.

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